Thursday, March 27, 2008

Hello Everyone !!

Hi ! I finally found time to get to our local library and access their computers. I want to say how much I miss all of you and how much I appreciate your support and prayers. I hope it won't be much longer before we have our computers back.

I feel I owe you all an explanation. This is hard to write about but here goes...

My husband Eddie frequented an adult chat room where he talked to several people across the country. This was not a porn site, just a site where adults talked about anything they wanted. Pictures of families were shared and some people even met to play cards if they lived close enough. One day Eddie was talking to one of his "Buddies" when he received a file from him. Thinking more family pictures or silly pictures, he downloaded it and discovered it to be child porn. His buddie who sent it told him he wanted the file back so Ed immediately sent it back and deleted it. NOT !!!!! It stays on your harddrive folks. Anyway, it ends up that his "Buddie" was being monitored for being in a child porn ring that was nationwide. When he sent to file to Eddie, that brought Eddie into the picture and the police raided our house & took Eddie and his computer to jail for possession and distribution.

When Eddie went to court the judge ordered no computers in the house so my sister and I lost ours too. This has been a devastating ordeal. As it continues, Ed's rights were violated by the police so the distribution charge will hopefully be dropped. Our lawyer told us that the police expected to come into our house and find a "Big Dog" player of the ring but instead found a puppy.... someone that was in the wrong place at the wrong time. Since this has happened, the person who sent Ed the file has been prosecuted and is serving 20 years in prison. We still don't know why he sent Ed the file... trying to recuit? I guess we'll never know that but we have learned a BIG leasson about downloading files. If something can't be seen/sent in a regular e-mail, it won't be seen by us because nothing will be downloaded again.

I hope this hasn't offended anyone. If it does, I am sorry. We have certainly suffered from this. As you know, Eddie is a teacher. He had to take early retirement or be terminated. It doesn't make any difference if you are guilty of something like this, all you need to be is accused. This has devastated us but we are slowly recovering. We have had so much support from friends and family and co-workers. That has helped so much.

I'm sorry it took so long to come back and post something but I just couldn't. I feel doing this today is part of the healing process. I don't know when I'll be able to get back here. I can't access this site from school. It is blocked... LOL If anyone would like to write me you can reach me at school......... jhimes@clbs.k12.mn.us

Jenn.... I got your card. It was beautiful. Thank you so much !!!!!!! Wholly Burble, I love you !!! I'll be back when i can. (((HUGS))) to all.

Love,
Jan

10 comments:

Gabriel said...

I'm shocked to read what has happened to you and Ed. I'm very, terribly sorry. I too was on the receiving end of one of those e-mails not long ago, from somebody I didn't even know.

I'm a father of four, active member of my church, a youth soccer coach, etc. I forwarded the e-mail to the police and told them I was willing to help on anything they wanted me to do, even reply to this person and fake interest so they would catch him.

I never heard from the police, and it's been more than a year... I guess they had other stuff to do.

Anyway, I know you don't even know who I am, but I've been coming to your site regularly for your WW posts, and kept coming periodically after you stopped posting, searching for an update. Once again, I'm very sorry to hear what you're going through. Be strong, and have faith that you will overcome this.

--Gabriel

Anonymous said...

Nice to hear from you again...I hope all goes well and may God's hand rest on your shoulder.

(((hugs)))

Jen said...

Oh, Jan, I'm so sorry you and Ed went through this! Huge hugs. I'll e-mail shortly.

Sai Hijara - Ferraris said...

Hope you get my email too...

Jan said...

Thank You Gabriel, Jenn and Mariposa. this has been quite an ordeal and it still isn't over. I don't know when it will be. I thank you all for your support and prayers.

Hugs and love,
Jan

Whimsical Ranter said...

OMG, you poor thing. I can't imagine going through what you're going through. I'm sending prayers that everything is cleared up for you all quickly.

((((((hugs)))))

Wholly Burble said...

Jan, good that you made it here and were able to write about all of this--as you say, it's part of the healing process I'm sure. My prayers are with both of you as always--and my prayer is that Ed find God's favor helping lift this heavy burden.

Alekx said...

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm all about catching predators, in my line of work we are so exposed about them but I also think that sometimes we the law jump a little quick on "convicted" or "accused" sex offenders.
Alot of hard lessons have been learned, but good on you for being able to begin the healing process.

Jenn in Holland said...

Jan, I am sorry for a couple of things here. First that this happened at all and second that I am so slow on the uptake, I missed this news completely and completely missed out on the moment to express love and support to you and Eddie.
What a shame and what an ordeal. I am glad you shared it here and I am glad to think that you are weathering the storm.
Blessings on wing.

Jan said...

No problem Jenn.... (((HUGS)))

Blessings,
Jan